Hot Girls Regulate Their Nervous Systems: THE ELEMENTAL WAY
- jennysmithmattfeldt
- 23 hours ago
- 4 min read
Updated: 21 hours ago
The Basics
It’s true, “regulating your nervous system” has become a bit of a wellness buzzword lately. Also true, it’s something most women should probably be paying attention to.
Our lives revolve around technology, schedules, optimizing, and endless to-do lists, so it shouldn’t be shocking that it’s incredibly easy to end up dysregulated while running a perfectly normal modern routine. Underneath all the noise, your nervous system really only has two main modes that matter here:
Sympathetic → fight or flight. Stress, anxiety, urgency. Your body thinks it needs to stay alert.
Parasympathetic → rest and digest. Calm, recovery, clarity. This is where healing actually happens.
Most of us are spending way too much time in the first state and not nearly enough in the second.
Somewhere along the way, we started acting like nervous system regulation required a $400 course and a Himalayan sound bath. Most of the time, it just means going outside and remembering you’re a human being.
What dysregulation feels like
A lot of people live here without realizing it:
constantly anxious or on edge
doom scrolling / phone addiction
feeling wired but exhausted
emotional reactivity
trouble sleeping
overeating or other numbing behaviors
brain fog or overwhelm
Your body is basically saying: “Something isn’t safe, stay alert.”
What a regulated nervous system feels like
When you’re regulated you typically feel:
calm but alert
able to focus
emotionally steady
resilient to stress
better digestion and sleep
clear thinking and decision making
It doesn’t mean you never feel stress. It means your system can easily return to baseline after stress.
Healing Your Baseline
Your nervous system is simply responding to your environment. If you want different outputs, you need different inputs.
Today, there will be no supplements, no apps, no wellness gadgets—I truly believe the only real way to heal your baseline is through your faith and the earth. Take a little time to revert back to the elements and let them do the work. We're talking back to basics: earth, water, fire, air. Your body already knows how to heal you just need to give it the space and signals to do so.
Heat, literally and metaphorically, to light you back up. If you’ve been numbing yourself through overeating, endless scrolling, [insert whatever your vice is], start with fire.
Step outside. Sunlight boosts mood-regulating chemicals and resets your internal clock. With all the blue light from screens, your circadian rhythm (your body’s intuitive sense of when to sleep and wake) can get thrown off.
Now a bit more metaphorical approach: you need to find your spark again. Whether you’re running on anxiety or numbing your way through life, reviving the things that actually excite you will bring you back toward your center. Sometimes when we're experiencing a lot of anxiety we think the cure is doing less, but I would actually argue it's doing more of the right things. What lit you up when you were thirteen? Force yourself to go do it this week.
Finding your electricity, your vibrancy isn't just a self serving act. We all have internal light and it's meant to help elevate others as well.
Matthew 5:14–16 "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others."
Fresh air. Room to breathe. It’s going to make you feel like a new person, inside and out.
The Double Inhale (Physiological Sigh)
Want an instant reset? Try this:
Inhale: Deep breath in through your nose, filling your lungs.
Top-up inhale: Without exhaling, take a quick, smaller “sip” of air to fully expand your lungs.
Exhale: Let it go with a long, slow, sighing breath out through your mouth.
Repeat: 3–5 cycles, about a minute, and watch stress melt away.
Air out your space. There’s a social media trend called “burping your house” (ew). I won’t be calling it that — but open all the windows, deep clean for 30 minutes, and throw on a yacht rock remix. Impossible not to feel lighter.
Pray. You want fresh energy? Ask for it. Prayer isn’t only meant for gratitude. If you need room to breathe (literally and spiritually) just ask.
Spoiler alert: you don't need an buy an EMF grounding mat. You just need to touch the dirt. “Grounding” is exactly what it sounds like: making direct contact with the Earth. Walking barefoot on soil, grass, or sand lets your body soak up the Earth’s natural negative charge. This influx of electrons can help neutralize positively charged free radicals linked to inflammation.
Yeah, I know, it sounds a little woo-woo. But here’s the thing: has anyone ever spent time in nature and not felt better? The answer is no. Your body knows it. Your nervous system knows it.
I once heard someone say: “Dogs, babies, and anxiety all get better with water.” Consider this your prescription to throw water at the problem. I don’t care if that means an everything shower, chugging a liter of water, hopping in a pool, or heading straight for the ocean.
Being near water, often called “blue space” (even Vogue is talking about the benefits), lowers stress hormones, triggers your parasympathetic nervous system, and drops you into a calm, meditative state known as “soft fascination.” Sound of waves. Light dancing on the surface. Salt in the air. These sensory hits reduce mental fatigue, boost your mood, and remind your nervous system what it feels like to actually breathe.