Rabbit Holes Worth Falling Into Tonight (Instead of Mindless Scrolling)
- jennysmithmattfeldt
- Apr 23
- 5 min read
Updated: Apr 26
A curated mix of deep dives that will subtly rewire how you think, dress, date, and move through your life.
There are endless places to get lost on the internet.
And it's way too easy to waste an hour before bed just scrolling through socials. Instead tonight poke around in our little collection of rabbit holes 100% worth going down.
Train your RAS, watch what happens.
Whether you opted in or not your brain is constantly looking for ways to show you what you want to see. Ex: if you've decided today is the worst day of your life your brain will actively search out ways to show you how shitty your life is. If you are convinced there are opportunities everywhere and people just keep offering you jobs and collabs and money, guess what your brain is going to find for you today? It all comes down to a piece of the brain called the Reticular Activating System or the RAS. It filters down the amount of sensory data you are seeing every day and if you begin to ask it to show you specific things that's exactly what it will do. (Decide you want to see red cars today watch what happens.) Your brain is like a brand new computer, take it out of the box and start customizing.
Is your birth control changing your type?
This has actually been a well studied topic lately but the anecdotal evidence is even stronger, just ask around. Most studies have to do with scent attraction and the masculinity of a mans face, and it's been clearly shown that being on the pill "decreased women's preferences for male facial masulinity." If you bring the topic up with a group girlfriends there will inevitably be one (or a friend of a friend) who realized she wasn't even into her boyfriend once getting off birth control.
Some think that because being on the pill mimics pregnancy maybe women are more attracted to 'safer' looking men? Another angle could be the lack of ovulation, Science Insights says during that window "women show stronger immediate attraction to traits associated with genetic fitness: deeper voices, more masculine faces, confident body language." All I'm saying is make sure you date him without before you commit.
Find what actually looks good on you.
It's a body archetype system, created by David Kibbe, that goes way deeper than the usual pear/apple thing it’s about your natural lines, proportions, and overall “essence,” and how certain silhouettes either fight that or completely elevate it. Once you start seeing it, you can’t unsee it… and it will finally make sense why some outfits never worked no matter how hard you tried. It gives you the clothing styles and even textures and fabrics that are going to look best on you (swear it works.)
If you’ve ever felt like your style is almost there but not quite hitting, this one will change how you shop, dress, and honestly how confident you feel in your outfits. Start with a quiz, find a celeb with the same archetype (who has professional stylists working on them), and I almost guarantee you'll find the most flattering outfits of your life.
Makes you want to take a closer look at what you're feeding your gut.
The gut–brain axis is one of those rabbit holes that starts with digestion and ends with your entire mood, energy, and hormones making more sense. Researchers found a constant two-way conversation between your gut and brain (we'll call it the gut-brain axis) where your gut microbiome can actually influence things like serotonin, cortisol, and even estrogen balance. Translation: what’s happening in your gut isn’t just about bloating or digestion, it's impacting how you feel, how you respond to stress, and how your hormones function day to day.
If you can't understand why it's so hard to let go of the toxic ones, this one's for you.
Intermittent reinforcement is one of those concepts that will make you rethink a lot of your past situations. It’s a principle from Behavioral Psychology where rewards are given unpredictably (think affection, attention, or validation that comes and goes.) That inconsistency actually makes the brain more attached, not less, because you keep chasing the “high” of when it’s good. It creates a kind of anxious obsession because you never know which you'll get.
It’s the same mechanism that makes gambling addictive, and in relationships, it can keep people stuck in cycles that are objectively unhealthy but feel impossible to walk away from. Which can over time alter your brain and how you approach relationships as a whole. Once you understand it, a lot of “why did I stay so long?” starts to make uncomfortable sense.
Cleopatra was not who you think.
Cleopatra is one of those rabbit holes where the deeper you go, the more you realize you’ve been sold a very curated version of her. She wasn’t just some legendary beauty she was highly educated, spoke multiple languages, and played politics at a level that kept her in power through alliances with figures like Julius Caesar and Mark Antony.
They even say that she would have the purple sails of her ship soaked in perfumes so they would announce her arrival even before you saw her, talk about a sensory experience. The "only a seductress” narrative was largely shaped after her death, possibly to turn a strategic ruler into just a scandalous story. It’s basically an ancient case study in reputation control, gender politics, and how powerful women get rewritten (there's a reason we're still discussing her today.)
Business lessons from a woman who carved the path.
Madame C. J. Walker is one of those rabbit holes that will genuinely light a fire under you. She built a beauty empire specifically for black women and became the first self-made female millionaire in the U.S.
But what’s even more interesting is how ahead of her time she was with branding, sales, and influence. She didn’t just sell products, she built a movement, trained women to sell, and created a full ecosystem around her brand before that was even a concept. It’s the kind of story that makes you rethink what’s actually possible when you take your ideas seriously.
Cortisol face is not a myth.
The “cortisol face” rabbit hole is where wellness and vanity collide in a way that’s actually a little confronting. Chronic stress spikes hormones like cortisol, which can drive inflammation, water retention, breakouts, damaged skin barriers, and that puffy, tired look people start noticing in their face. If you take anything from this let it be that your shitty boyfriend / job / toxic friendgroup is actually draining your good looks, let them go.
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